May 08

The Children That the Gods Forgot: Phnom Penh’s Street Children

by in Cambodia

 

“Mister, mister, you have money for me?”

“Chocolate man, you buy a bracelet from me?”

“Damn you, chocolate man, why you so mean? You buy from me Obama man.”

I admit that at times I cracked a smile at the ways the kids in Phnom Penh and other parts of Cambodia would approach me to buy things or simply give them a dollar. I smiled at their inventiveness and charm, but was careful not to mock their predicament.

You can Google the numbers. They are staggering. In Phnom Penh alone, there are estimated to be anywhere between 2,000-10,000 children as young as four, working on the streets rather than attending schools. Children as young as 10 have been observed (not by myself) shooting heroin or sniffing glue. Some estimates I read said that over 70% of the street children reported to have had sex with tourists. Tragic statistics for a country trying hard to separate itself from a tragic history.

On my last night in Sihanoukville, Cambodia last weekend, as our tuk tuk driver took us back to the ship, I saw a young Cambodian boy asleep on the sidewalk; no pillow, blanket, not even a jacket for cushioning.

While walking along Pub Street in Siem Reap, a young girl approached my friends and I asking for milk for her sister. She was carrying her baby sister in a sling and said that she did not want money, she just needed milk for her sister. When I told her that I didn’t have money to get her milk, she said to me, “No money, no honey. No dollar, no boom boom.” I nearly broke down and cried at that moment. I couldn’t even stay out that night, opting to return to my hotel.

I saw these things not more than two days after visiting on of the sights where the Khmer Rouge had their killing fields outside of Phnom Penh. As I listened to the audio guide during my tour, I learned the different methods the Khmer Rouge used to kill innocent Cambodians from 1975-1979. At one point, they became conservative with their bullets and decided it would be more cost effective to beat people to death. There was a tree at the killing field and on that tree were 100′s of bracelets. Those bracelets were in memory of the 100′s of children who were beaten to death at the tree.

 

Tree at the killing fields where children were taken to and beaten against by the Khmer Rouge.

 

They were not beaten to death at the tree; they were beaten to death against the tree.

I can no longer contemplate the cruelty of man. I can’t imagine that scene actually happening. How are people who commit such crimes even allowed to live? There are men and women- free men and women- walking around Cambodia right now who committed these acts.

I cannot put into written or oral words how heart wrenching it is hearing about and seeing what children in Cambodia endure. They are not only being exploited by their families, but also by tourists. I hope Cambodia has the death penalty for any foreigner caught engaging in sexual acts with a minor. If they don’t, maybe they can send the tourists over the border into Thailand with a pound of weed strapped to them.

When is society as a whole going to protect our children? What drives people to exploit and commit crimes against children? I know it happens in cities and countries all around the world. It’s just that for myself, I’ve never seen it so in my face before. We’d be stopped at a gas station and the instant we got out of the car, kids would approach us. If we gave money, we’d see the kid go around the corner and then more kids would come from that area like puppets on a string. It was as if there were someone directing them on what to say and do when they approached us.

 

Photos of children taken prisoner and tortured at the S-21 prison in Phnom Penh during the reign of Pol Pot and the Khmer Rouge.

 

I think about that sleeping boy. Can’t get him out of my mind. No shoes on his feet. Nothing to lay his head on. His future is already written for him. The little girl with the baby. Does she have a chance? Or will she wind up working at a hostess bar at an age where she isn’t legally old enough to drink?

What will become of these street children? Is Cambodia doing anything to lessen their numbers and educate them and the adults surrounding them?

In future posts, I will tell you how great the food is in Cambodia or how amazing my hotels were. But why should I entice anyone to visit a country that does not take care of its people and improve their lot, not the livelihood of the tourists flooding in from China with their new money.

The street children of Phnom Penh are the children that the gods have forgotten. No way any higher power would allow children to be exploited to the extent they are now. Come to think of it, no way any man should allow children to be exploited as they are now.

 

This twisted tree at the killing fields speaks to me. It tells me about the twisted lives that it saw daily during the reign of terror the Khmer Rouge imposed upon the Cambodian people.

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  • http://www.senyorita.net/ Micamyx|Senyorita

    I stayed in Siem Reap for 8 days and met some young Khmer kids there. I don’t really know how to feel to be honest whenever some come up to me to sell or beg. I wanted to go to Phnom Penh to visit the killing fields, but i am not so sure if i am ready to do so. Cambodia is a beautiful country, but its past is still haunting the residents.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      What did you think of the kids you met there?
      I did not think I was ready for a visit to the killing fields either, but I think it’s something every traveler to Cambodia should do if they can. You will get a first-hand grasp of what they had to endure. Did you know that nearly all the major cities were abandoned as they forced people to work in the country?

  • Adamjk

    Tragic and powerful tale. Good for you for sharing it.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      Thank you Adam.

  • Miapose

    Great story Fidel. I have very much enjoyed ur insight during this trip. Good luck on the journey onwards.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      Thank you Miapose.

  • cookie

    Hi Son, Robby asked me to read this story aloud to him, as I often do with your stories, I can’t get this one past my lips…..

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      I can understand fully.

  • SVV

    I consider myself hardened and tough but Cambodia made me well up like a teenager. Damn right god forgot them. I’d venture to say he never even knew them. They’re too brown, too remote and too guilt-inducing to handle for most westerners. I say let’s call a witness.

    I wrote this immediately after visiting there and feel the need to share because my insides just broke again. I call it:

    Mister Mister

    It doesn’t matter the reason, her eyes trembling with full wells of tears
    It doesn’t matter the reason, her face torn with betrayal
    It doesn’t matter the reason, her hands fumbling for answers in the air
    Nothing matters now but the indelible imagery of a small child
    Tossed into the throes of an adult
    Learning lessons that burn
    I taught her a lesson, unwillingly and
    She watched the bus, sobbing

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      I like the poem. Thank you for sharing it. The thoughts I think while reading it are the same that made me write this post.
      I was a little too harsh at the end, saying that the Cambodian people care more about travelers than their own citizens. That was not true. I did see a lot of businesses that hire former street children and help them get new lives. There are people who care and who recognize that a change needs to come.
      No matter how tough I think I am or try to be, nothing will break me like seeing a child whose innocence was snatched away too soon.

      • SVV

        It’s quite difficult to be gentle when talking about issues like this particularly when it’s not just a child, but a female child. That’s animal bro, to care. Not just to care but to become violently proactive. Tell me you didn’t contemplate homicide and I’d call you a customer.

        The one key that I saw to really get at the heart of it is taking out the mafioso that rule the roost in that part of the world. Those are the people we need to be harsh with because they’re exploiters of the weak.

  • http://thejungleprincess.com/ Abby

    You are becoming a powerful writer, my friend.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      That is quite a compliment, Abby. Thank you! Are you hiring? lol

  • James

    This is proof my friend, that sometimes traveling trumps any type of formal education you could accrue. A picture and words can illustrate these injustices to an extent, but seeing it first hand is a value changer– something to make you think hard about why people complain about anything or feel the need to constantly upgrade all their stuff– especially in the states.

    It’s sad when we see something that looks and smells like exploitation at its worst, yet the people being taken advantage of don’t know any better.

    Keep up the good material!

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      James, I think traveling has been my best education. The exploitation I see in SE Asia seems to run rampant without any hope. Could these pots just be boiling or are the people really content with their lives?
      Thank you!

  • http://www.world-walk-about.com/ Andrea Sherrodd

    This is why I’m nervous about going to Cambodia. I want to go, but so many people tell me it’s one of the hardest places to experience.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      It is a hard place to experience, yet, still you should go. Perhaps you can volunteer for a day or two at a children’s home and that way you’d be helping bring smiles.

  • http://twitter.com/thatbackpacker Audrey Bergner

    Wow. This is heartbreaking to read. I feel like some of these kids hardly stand a chance at all…

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      I echo your sentiments, Audrey. I wonder aloud how the cycle can be broken.

  • http://twitter.com/WanderlandAlex Alexandra Baackes

    Hi Fidel, not sure if you were reading my blog yet when I wrote my post about Khmer street kids. I too was horrified by the situation but also by the enabling behavior of tourists- I know their hearts are in the right place but talk to even one NGO or read even one brochure and you will see it shouted from the rooftops- don’t give the street kids money!

    I read the paper most mornings for the three weeks I was in Cambodia and I shook with rage when I read of foreigners being arrested for child sex crimes. That must be the lowest humanity can get… to travel to another country simply to exploit its most vulnerable and down-trodden citizens.

    • http://www.scenewithahart.com/ Fidel

      I was not reading it then, but I have read that post. It’s so hard to not want to give the children something though. I remember my first trip to SR last year. I was at a temple and a little girl kept following me, asking me to buy postcards. I told her that I was not interested in buying any but then I gave her a U.S. dollar bill and told her to keep the postcards. She looked nervously around and then hid the dollar in her clothing. All around her were teenage boys who were clearly watching the younger children, making sure they were selling the cards.

  • http://twitter.com/theblondegypsy The Blonde Gypsy

    Really powerful piece. As you may have seen, I was in Phnom Penh for about a month working at a rehabilitation center for kids rescued from sex trafficking (http://bit.ly/Lfhq1o). It’s a vicious cycle that makes it all the more difficult to stop when it’s their parents or extended families forcing them to into it. Well, what can be done? I’d like to think programs like the one I was involved in can start making a difference, but as one reader brought to my attention, even these organizations are taking advantage of their vulnerability.

    http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/peopleandpower/2012/05/201252243030438171.html

    I’m pretty certain mine was legit as one of the largest universities in Phnom Penh set it up, but even so, my group worked with maybe 15 kids at the most. Less than even .0075% of the 2,000-10,000 that need help. Makes me sick and angry but I guess the best we can do is to keep talking about it, being some kind of voice out there for them.